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The Most Important Thing I Learned This Year

Sometimes things that are very personal can also be important to a much wider sphere. Today is one of those things, I hope, and it’s a good one with which to end 2012.
As my brother lay dying a month or so ago, he said something that really stuck. He had a very rare form of cancer, one which even if it had been caught very early might not have been curable. While Mike was never one for much (if any) self-pity, on this occasion he indulged himself just a bit. What he had to say was a very important thing for your business life and that’s what I’d like to share.

“Why didn’t I take a day off and go to the doctor? Why didn’t I tell a client I can’t meet? Why did I keep going to the office?”

He knew – long before it was obvious to any of the rest of us – that something was wrong yet he felt a responsibility to his job and to his clients to put them first.  Obviously, I’m a big believer in that – I write often about a customer-centric focus.  However, what I learned this year was that if you’re going to serve your clients well you also need to be in sound enough shape physically and mentally to do so.  That requires that we take some time away.  Shut down the email, turn off the cellphone.  Go play a video game or golf or cook or read a non-business book.  Treat yourself as you would a client – they deserve some focused, uninterrupted time and so do you.

As I said, even if he had gone to the doctor the outcome might have been the same.  What might not have been, however, was how he used the time he had left and how he was treated to determine that time.  Mike’s lesson wasn’t exactly something I learned for the first time this year but this time it’s stuck.  I hope he can help it stick with you as well.

Enjoy a day or two off – on to a great 2013!

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Playing Nice

I had a completely different post written this morning but it’s off in the digital ether.

Cougar / Puma / Mountain Lion / Panther (Puma ...

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It’s gone as a result of a misbehaving computer.  Yes, I save as I go but in a burst of prolific writing I got a lot text on the page in between autosaves and when what I’m about to describe happened, the brilliance I spewed was lost.  The topic was the balance between large audiences as measured by TV ratings vs. buzz as measured by Facebook.   As it turns out, they’re not one and the same.  According to a list published by Facebook the other day, most of the widely discussed shows on their platform don’t have large ratings.  Maybe I’ll come back to that another time.

Instead, I want to spent today dispelling what I’m suddenly finding to be a myth – that Apple stuff “just works.”  Ever since I installed Mountain Lion, my MacBook Air has something called kernel panics every day.  Chrome and the OS aren’t playing nicely, and I’m not the only one having this issue.  In fact, enough people are having it that when you search for “chrome and mountain lion crashing” you get nearly a million search results.  Yes, I’ve tried nearly all of the suggested fixes (as have many others on the product support forums I read) but none of them seem to solve the issue.  Honestly, I (and many others) am not even sure where the issue is.  Apple says it’s Chrome and we should switch to Safari, but other browsers seem to cause crashes including Safari.  Google says it might be Flash or an extension or Apple.  The only thing different is the new OS (which has all the updates installed as well).  Putting aside the walled garden ecosystem discussion for a minute, what I think of a lot is kindergarten.

We all learn very early on in our lives to socialize.  For me it was really around the time I began school (no pre-school 50 years ago!) and the message to “play nice with the other kids” was reinforced by my parents and teachers all the time.  Why the hell can’t that lesson get through the skulls of hardware and software folks?  It’s a good one for the rest of us as well – very few businesses exist on their own.  We process payments, we deal with suppliers, we (hopefully) have customers.  Play nice with the other kids if you want to succeed!

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Eating In Silence

It’s Foodie Friday time, and since it’s also Pearl Harbor Day I have Japan on my mind.

Tonkotsu ramen

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It’s interesting how in the 71 years since that infamous day so many things Japanese have become a part of our American culture.  One of these is ramen, the diet staple of so many college students and budding entrepreneurs   We’re used to pre-packaged noodles and overly salty broth.  In Japan, it’s another food altogether  and ramen culture is a big deal.  There are festivals to celebrate the various styles of ramen and if you ever have the opportunity to visit a restaurant where fresh ramen of various types is served, go.  I’d recommend finding a place that specializes in the dish and not just a Japanese place that serves ramen along with other types of Japanese food.

There is a place outside of Tokyo called 69 ‘N Roll One that specializes in the dish.  What makes it an interesting subject today is that the owner has a few rules, the biggest of which is that you must eat in total silence.  Don’t talk to someone you’re with (you probably won’t be sitting next to them anyway – it’s first come first served at counter seating).  Don’t use your phone. Don’t even read.  You’ll be eating ramen in total silence.  According to people who’ve eaten there, what is at first an extremely weird experience becomes contemplative as you become intensely focused on every bite.  Which is the business point today.

How often do we clear our mind of distractions and really focus on something?  We’re always wondering if there’s new email.  Our other projects are dancing around in the back of our minds.  Maybe we have music on as we work.  We’re all so used to multitasking that calming our minds – shutting down the other windows that are open on our mental desktops – is a rarity these days.  Maybe it’s something we need to try more often?  Just as with this bowl of ramen, the subtleties hidden by the distractions get a chance to come out.  The quick, often superficial thoughts we have on things give way to more complex impressions.  Can that be a bad thing?

Try it tonight while you’re eating.  Turn off the TV, turn down the music, and don’t speak.  How does the food taste?   Maybe it’s something you can try in the office too?  Then let us know your impressions.

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